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Thursday, September 8, 2011

So Nice To Get Married

A friend is getting married soon to his soon to be ex-girlfriend.  My, how time flies, it’s been  exactly 8 years and 5 months of being married to the most beautiful woman in the whole world which I truly love.  I love everything about her especially her imperfections... in the same way I love her just staying in my side during rough times.  I love waking up with her in the morning... no make ups... no hiding or anything... in this way I know she’s for real.  With her, I don’t worry if life sometimes can be a mess... because I know, we can fix it together and at the end of the day... everything will be alright.

For a friend and those getting married, here are my thoughts:

It’s a long, thought about decision.  I married because I found her... the woman I want to share my life forever.  I want to be her husband and a father to our children.  And I came up to this not in just one sitting but through the entire years of our relationship together.  Not everything is perfect, yet we ended up together, because we knew in our hearts, that we complement each other.

Accepted Imperfections.  All people have flaws.  We accepted ours even before we got married.  If I can stand and accept anything about her, then I can marry her.

No Hiding.  We kept no secret to one another.  I just don’t know what its effect in her or to me if something wasn’t spoken... so we open all our cards.  And we accept everything.  Hiding something from her, made me think that I never trust her with it... but I trust her even with my life.

I love her, no other purpose.  I married my wife because I love to spend my life with her... and not with any other purpose.  Having our beautiful children is a blessing from Yahweh.  And everything else that goes with her... I really don’t think of that... It’s her I want and not the things that surround her.

Respect marriage as you respect Yahweh.  When I married my wife, I wasn’t only legally bound to her... but more importantly, we were united by Yahweh.  People are more concern of the law or what other people will think about them that often times; we disregard what Yahweh would think of our actions.  By keeping our vows to love each other, we then show our respect and love to Him.

As our elders often say, “Marriage is nothing like a hot rice you put in your mouth, when you get burned, you can just spit it out.”  It’s just like telling us that we should make sure and think a thousand times if we want to get married.  Then make a decision, if you don't have any hesitations or worries  then go for it... for after that, it'll just only be both of you... your choices... since it’s your life.

To my friends who decided to make a tie... Best wishes.  May Yahweh be your guide and bless you with happiness and contentment in life...



  1. I value my marriage as I value my husband and children. I am very happy with my marriage life. I am pro-marriage! Let them get married and be happy. All the Best for your Friend kuya Ralph. -Jenny

  2. Very, very beautiful! You two sound like a wonderful couple...and it's so nice to read something nice like this from a happy hubby! My husband and I, too, have the same kind of relationship...he is the best! We've been married 20 years, and though we talked about it some, we have not had children. I know they'd be a blessing, but to tell you the truth, I am happy just to be with HIM. It was like when you said you married your wife to spend your life with HER. Great writing, I loved it! :)-Katwin2010

  3. This is a beautiful article with great wisdom and advice. There ought to be more people who share the same values as you.

  4. Wonderful post!! I love how you express your commitment and love for your wife. This is the way it should be. I've been married to my husband for 16 years. It is very much like this. Thanks for sharing and many blessings to your friends on their new marriage.

  5. This is a beautiful post, Ralph. One of the reasons I like to visit your blog and soak up your words. You have a beautiful family :-)

    I did add you to my blogroll :-)

    Blessed be...

  6. It's do nice to get married. I want to, and I think I'm ready.. but he left me.. hehe. Okay lang yun. I believe that good things come to those who patiently wait.. :)

  7. Thank you so much for all your appreciations guys... I'm glad you all liked it. I write what I feel and my thoughts... and I like sharing it with you... Yahweh bless.

  8. Hi Ralph, the Lord bless you, enol and the kids! - meldsc